Robert Jarmon, "Discovering the Soul" - unusual psychiatric case studies
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Do people hang on to anachronistic coping mechanisms? Yes, a lot.
As children we learn certain behavior patterns for those times, but eventually the rules of behavior need to evolve. “When I was a child, I spoke and behaved like a child, but when I became a man…”
Many societies try to mark the transition definitively with a ceremony around the time of puberty. For Jews the bar mitzvah, for Catholics the confirmation, for primitive societies some sort of rights of passage.
People have problems when they don’t adapt to the new regs. I would tell my patients it’s like playing football in the morning and doing well, then going back to a field in the afternoon and not knowing why you are now struggling. Things look kind of the same but you notice differences. You continue playing by the old rules but it just isn’t working. No wonder, everyone else is now playing rugby. Learn the new rules and give up the old.
You can see it a lot in family dynamics. My mother had an older sister Lil, and a younger sister Vi. They lost their mother at a young age , and Lil took on the role of the dominant female, never relinquishing that position. When they were in their 70s, the three sisters were widowed. Lil and Vi both bought condos in Florida a few doors away from each other but rarely communicated.
One day My mother told me that she was going to visit her sisters for two weeks. One week with Lil, then one week with Vi. I thought that sounded a little odd, but “whatever works “. I called my mother after the first week and asked how her visit was going. She nervously said, “Very well. Aunt Lil and I have been having a nice time.”
“And now you’re going to stay with Aunt Vi”, I said.
“Oh no I can’t. Aunt Lil said so”.
“Mother, you’re 76 years old. You no longer have to do what Lil says”. She stayed with Lil.
Four years later I had to call Aunt Lil. When she answered she said, “Bobby, I had the strangest, longest, and most wonderful conversation with your mother last night. She called me out of the blue, which she never does and we spoke for two hours in a loving conversation the likes of which we never ever had. What was it that you were calling me about?”
I said, “I have some very sad news. Mother died last night.”
“My god. I don’t believe it she sounded so happy and energetic. I had NEVER heard her sound like that before. This is such a shock! You know, after all these years we finally made peace. I can picture now your mother in her lovely old rocking chair, going on and on talking last night. It would mean so much to me if I could have that rocking chair. There is nothing else I would want.”
I said, “Actually, Aunt Lil, when we found her she was sitting upright on her sofa next to the phone. So it’s the sofa where she had that last goodbye all is forgiven conversation.” There was a long pause and I guessed rightly what was coming next.
“Bobby”, she said, “Could I have that rocking chair anyway?”
That was Aunt Lil.
Répondu il y a 6w
air …. oxygen… I guess? Lol
you are probably holding a phone or on a device that has a camera facing you … and we all know people can hack into these and watch us… but “we don’t care” because “we aren’t special enough” I’ve had my email-netflix-accounts-ICloud-instagram-Facebook-tumblr(which was the worst) hacked … and it got to the point where I felt like I was being followed or at least watched through my phone or GPSed .. I couldn’t sleep or eat because I knew it was because i downloaded spyware … when I called Apple and they weren’t that much help… my password was being changed on me daily and they knew the “IP” address or w.e what in Texas and I said over the phone “how could this be me if I’m standing in MA an hour after the password was changed… my bank didn’t help either basically telling me I had to prove I didn’t authorize the purchases… I said my amazon account is sending these items to Texas surely you can find the person that’s doing this there “we aren’t the police we don’t investigate like that” *rolling my eyes* because the police didn’t give a FLYING FUCK telling me I had to go through the motions. “changing my passwords” (yeah didn’t think of that) and calling the people I already talked to about it *rolling my eyes*…
the point I’m trying to make is everyone takes for granted their privacy… until some crazy stalker/hacker harasses you and no one believes you because you look like a mess and you aren’t showing them things they can’t fully believe like “how do we know you didn’t post that? Do you have proof?”
Yeah… let me just start recording what I do 24/7 and then give it to you as evidence… which is actually something I considered … once I got a new phone… changed my email and all my other stuff was I able to feel safe again … sometimes my Facebook says I’m logged in somewhere which I delete that device from being able to use my account but besides that everything is fine…
idk if this is connected but about 6 years ago when I googled my full name I found a website called “Ifuckinghate(my name).net” and it had all my YouTube’s on it and a couple MySpace pictures with horrible comments … but yeah … I have never done anything that I think anyone would want to take revenge on … I mean I’m not perfect and I was a douche bag to a couple people in high school but they were very rude to me first… and high school Isn’t “the end of the world”
but yeah stop letting Facebook facial Recognition system own you too … do you know how creepy that is??? And it’s a violation on privacy I believe…
i wish i didn’t grow up in the generation I did because the adults were smart enough to not have all these accounts with pictures of themselves
Boghos Youssif, I've lived in different societies and have been in different social situations.
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A lot is taken for granted. Different people with their different sotuations take different things for granted.
For example, i always took for granted how my parents have a good marriage and are not divorced. They will always stand by my side.
On the other hand people here take for granted the safety in which they live, the interenet speed, electricity, water and food. Maybe not all of them. But those are some stuff I experienced in my ahort life between first and third world countries.
People take for granted what they never missed, what they always had under their noses.
Linda Wilson, Managing Partner/Owner (1987-present)
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People take for granted the freedoms that we have in the USA. Many do not believe that we need warriors to protect that freedom.
Because of our military, our country has had relative peace at home. When we discount or take for granted our military we are putting ourselves at risk.
Steven Ussery, Software development consultant at Cisco (2017-present)
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Yes. You may have heard of them. They are called racism, poverty, and injustice.
Elegy Davenport, Senior Software Quality Assurance (1989-present)
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Yes. The political atmosphere in this country. We tend to look at it and say, “Hey, I’m just one person. What could I possibly do to fix it? My vote is only one vote. It won’t count. I won’t bother.”